Yet, when I think about why I thought tall guys were more attractive, I found that it boiled down to one thing: my own insecurities. While I didn’t exactly have an eating disorder, I can’t recall a time during my adolescence when I wasn’t on some sort of diet.
If we conceptualize the dynamic along a continuum of developmental stages, it’s as if women see short men as awkward teens stunted in time, desperate at a school dance and relegated to the side wall.
I distinctly remember brainstorming who I was going to invite to my first dance as a freshman. He was cute, friendly, funny, and pretty much the ideal first-dance date candidate except for one thing: He was a couple inches shorter than me. If I still felt petite wearing four-inch heels with my frame of 5 feet 6 inches, he was worth my attention.
Slowly, this extreme standard of height waned, but I still felt awkward if he was near as tall as I was.
The term “Heightism“ was made popular by the Second Barnhart Dictionary of New English‘s wide reaching audience in 1971 and now is a household phrase most short men have heard. If a woman is taller than them, they won’t date them. We dated for a couple of months and things simply didn’t work out. How confident am I that you’ll find the women of your dreams? If am man’s initial conversation is about how tall I am, and he’s full of questions about why I wear heels, and he’s seems preoccupied with my height – or his lack thereof – I keep it moving. don’t appreciate you as much, or they just want sex.
Today I thought it would be a fun topic to discuss about women dating short guys. The same applies to women dating short guys as well. Some people love chocolate; some people love vanilla. Since, I have sworn tall guys, anyone over 6’0″ off!! There may be some truth to that, but as a woman who is 5’7″, I want to literally “look up” to a man, and not down or sideways.